➡️ First … Then …
Show what comes first (the less-fun bit) and what comes then (something nice). It takes the fight out of the moment and builds trust.
How to use it at home
- Draw or write the “first” task (e.g. tidy up) in the first box.
- Put something your child likes in the “then” box (e.g. bubbles).
- Point and say it simply: “First tidy up, then bubbles.”
- Follow through every time — that’s what builds trust in the routine.
A quick preview — here’s what you’ll print:
- Draw or write the “first” task (e.g. tidy up) in the first box.
- Put something your child likes in the “then” box (e.g. bubbles).
- Point and say it simply: “First tidy up, then bubbles.”
- Follow through every time — that’s what builds trust in the routine.
Pairs with our free Big Feelings program at inclusivetherapycentre.com/home-programs
Why this helps
A first–then board works because it shrinks the whole day down to two clear steps. When a child is dreading a task, the world can feel like an endless stretch of ‘no fun’. Showing that the not-so-fun bit is small and followed by something good gives them a light at the end of the tunnel they can actually see.
It also takes you out of the role of nagging and puts the plan on the board instead. In our clinic we notice children argue far less with a picture than with a parent. The board becomes the thing that ‘says’ what happens next, which keeps you calm and keeps the moment feeling fair rather than like a battle.
Tips for using it well
- Do keep the ‘then’ something your child genuinely likes, or the whole thing loses its pull.
- Don’t pile several tasks into the ‘first’ box — one small step at a time is the point.
- Do point to each picture as you say the words, so the board carries the message, not your tone.
- Don’t swap or cancel the ‘then’ once you’ve promised it, even if the ‘first’ was a struggle.
- Do keep your language short and steady — ‘first shoes, then park’ — and then let the board do the talking.
Common questions
What if my child refuses the ‘first’ task anyway?
Stay calm and keep pointing to the board rather than repeating yourself. Wait quietly, offer a little help with the first step, and hold the ‘then’ steady — consistency is what teaches them the board can be trusted.
Can I use a first–then board for a whole morning routine?
It’s really designed for one tricky moment at a time. For a longer sequence of steps, a visual daily-routine chart usually works better.
My child can’t read yet — will it still work?
Absolutely. Simple drawings, photos or picture symbols work perfectly, and many families find pictures work even better than words for young children.
Written by the Inclusive Developmental and Therapy Center therapy team · medically reviewed by Dr Muhammad Suffyan, MB BS (GMC 8023727) · Last reviewed July 2026
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